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Relationships
15th October 2008
"My parents had a very good relationship," I often hear my clients say. "What do you mean by good?" I ask. "They didn't fight. They spent a lot of time with each other." That may have been the definition of a good relationship years ago, but now...
15th October 2008
Does this sound familiar? You only intended to get something cold to drink at the local Quick Trip® and on the way back to your car, you stopped by the rusty rack outside and scanned the selection of local magazines chock full of personal ads.
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15th October 2008
How often have you had the experience of connecting with someone - a friend or a potential partner - who turns out to be an uncaring person? At first you think this is a really good person, and then down the line you discover that the person is self...
15th October 2008
After you have had a few dates with someone and you think it might be going somewhere, you begin to ask more serious questions about their childhood, family, job etc. Eventually the relationship might progress to where the really tough questions m...
15th October 2008
A loving relationship with you is a prerequisite to having a healthy love relationship with someone else. Assume you have that handled. What's next? We must remember that this is it! Someday is now! No time to mess around. Life is too short. Live ...
15th October 2008
One reason people are unsuccessful in setting relationship goals is that sometimes they don't know what they want until they know what they don't want. Not setting goals is a workable method of getting more of what you don't want. It works every tim...
15th October 2008
If you have recently come out of a relationship, heed this word of caution. It may be wise to distance yourself from relationships for a while. Take a breather. The tendency of new singles often is quickly to find someone else to be with. Most m...
15th October 2008
In my counselling work, I often work with clients who have a deep fear of commitment. These individuals generally say that they want to be in a loving relationship, yet they keep picking "the wrong people."
Susan, 38, sought my help because sh...
15th October 2008
Many of us have abandonment wounds stemming from physical abuse, emotional abuse, sexual abuse, being left or ignored, being ridiculed or teased, and so on. When these wounds get triggered in our adult relationships, we may turn to anger, compli...
15th October 2008
This is for anyone who has ever dated someone from work, had a relationship, and then broken up and still has to work with that person. This article will show you how to deal, no matter what the current or past situation is between you two.
S...
15th October 2008
After separation you need to be able to discuss issues that affect the children without being stuck in old battles. What’s important is how you handle your differences: not that they exist. Sorting out issues is part of everyday life.
There i...
15th October 2008
Options to deal with anger:
- Write it out: Work through your anger by keeping a journal or
by writing letters BUT don’t mail them. It’s a way of putting down
what you think and feel and standing back and looking at what you
have written....
15th October 2008
After a breakup, you may still like the girl. This is meant to help you get going out again.
Steps
Don't expect that she still likes you, no matter what. Even though it may make you sad, remember that if she doesn't like you after the brea...
15th October 2008
How much energy do you spend trying to get what you want from your partner? Think about it for a moment - how much of your thinking time is spent on what to say to your partner to get him or her to be the way you want him or her to be?
Many of...
15th October 2008
Denial is a natural coping mechanism for things that happen which
we don’t really want to see. Be honest with yourself and ask:
- What are the thoughts or situations I have been trying to avoid?
- What have I rejected because it’s too cl...
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