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Len Stauffenger
Member since 19th September 2007
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13th August 2008
Divorce is a bit like dying. It is the dying of a marriage. That might sound too abrupt, but it is true. When you are served with divorce papers, when you find out he cheated, when he says he doesn't love you anymore, it all starts here. The dying begi...
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12th August 2008
If you're a divorced parent, you know better than even I do how busy your days can be with all the things on your To-Do list, answering your kids questions, hauling them around to their activities, being sure their homework gets done. There are always ar...
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18th July 2008
Our own wounded emotions caused by divorce are most harmful if they reach our children. One of the most sensitive areas where this can happen is for our children to hear us talking down about their other parent. They should not be made to hear their othe...
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11th July 2008
You simply cannot avoid or weasel out of one of the stickiest difficulties caused by divorce - you've got to keep interfacing with your ex to share custody with them.
Divorce hurts. It is your natural inclination to move away from the hurt that divorc...
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03rd July 2008
Have you heard the word "trigger" used to mean that someone has done something that upsets you? Ever been triggered by something your kids do? As parents, we have lots of things that trigger us, but when we're divorced, being triggered by our kids seems ...
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27th June 2008
When I was thirteen years old, my moral foundation was tested when my best friend called me all excited and said to come over to his house. He lived in an old two-story house with a big attic that you could walk in. He had been in the attic and found an...
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25th June 2008
Did you suffer when you had to listen to critical words about your former spouse from your friends or from your parents? Were you just a bit bruised listen to their criticisms? Did you want to run away from those hurt-filled words?
These are the feel...
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18th June 2008
Deciding who gets custody of the kids is one of the most important decisions in your divorce. Each of you is thinking "I get the kids!" Well, even if you do get sole custody, they're going to be staying with their other parent some of the time, so you n...
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10th June 2008
Let's tell ourselves the truth. If you're divorced, you have broken a big promise to your kids - that they'd have a two-parent life. Kids need to know that your promises to them will be kept, and yet this divorce was unavoidable, and maybe for reasons t...
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04th June 2008
Being a divorced parent can initially be a scary experience. You've just been emotionally slammed. The partner that you made a life time commitment to has fled the scene, and you are now scratching your head and feeling overwhelmed with dozens of questi...
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29th May 2008
Are you one of those people who spend your present dwelling on the past? The past is becoming too important to you. You're avoiding the present, emphasizing past failures, indulge in guilt. None of this living with past hurts or what you perceive to be...
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20th May 2008
When you go through the painful divorce experience, sometimes revenge runs rampant inside your mind, doesn't it? You certainly don't like what's happened to you. You want to blame someone because certainly you are faultless and blame free. You wouldn't...
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19th May 2008
Guilt hits us all, but it REALLY hits the divorced-with-children segment. It's such a wasted emotion too, and we decided to address it so that your guilt doesn't run you right into a second divorce. Those statistics are already high enough. We sincerel...
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06th May 2008
Blame. We all do it. We blame others for things that they deserve to be blamed for and things that they probably don't deserve. Placing blame seems to be a technique that we learn very early on. When you think of children even as young as two or three...
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01st May 2008
All divorced parents who are still walking on this earth find that going through a divorce stirs up emotions inside of them that prevents them from keeping their cool. Life gets filled with stress; you become exhausted, or irritated. It's really a challe...
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