Keeping It True
Youve got to admit that children suffer a lot of the effects of divorce. From angry parents, to separation anxiety its a tough world out there for children whose parents are divorced or getting split up.
Keeping a relationship with the kids needs sacrifice from both sets of parents. Both mother and father have to be capable to set aside their disputes long enough to inspect the hurt that they have both caused to their children. More often than not parents get to engrossed with their emotional pain that they fail to notice that their children suffer even more than they do.
Reports show that when both parents make conscious efforts to stay close to each other have more prosperous and stable children. Whats more when parents separate their relationship from those with their children, they incline to create a more harmonious relationship.
A Formal Study
To emphasize the importance of a fathers proximity to his kids, the State University of Arizona conducted a study of college pupils whose parents where unwedded. The researchers observed personality, emotional and intellectual maturity, health, and even interests in school and success. The researchers found several evidences that supports the idea that whoever has primary custody it is adamant that divorce parents be in close proximity of their kids.
Findings
The Determinations are very fascinating. Statistics clearly shows that children whose parents are divorced have healthier and more mature relationships when their parents make a conscious effort of keeping the essence of family intact.
61% of the kids involved in the study maintained that their mom or whoever had primary custody moved them at least an hours drive outside from the other parent. One of the concerns expressed by the students was getting in between the crossfire. When they stay with one parent during the move, future financial help (like for college) lessened. Example, if they stayed with dad mom gives less when college comes, and vice versa. In fact the investigation showed that the 1 hour driving distance already had a bad effect on the kids.
Emotional turmoil cannot be avoided, but a keener inspection of the kids showed that those whose parents kept them close have a sounder disposition emotionally and mentally.
In Conclusion
All in all the written report asserts that divorce does impact children. The way the parents treat each other and the distance they have from their children does have a fundamental impact that could determine whether the child succeeds or not. It is difficult to make friends with an ex wife after all thats been said and done, but it will be more difficult for you as a divorced dad when in the future you see your children bear the consequences of your implement.
As a divorced dad, it is your duty, to your self and your children to make the outstanding sacrifice of making the first step of keeping close.
