To be perfect is something that society and many individuals think is more important than anything else on earth. All problems associated with burn-out, depression and stress are only symptoms of the real cause.
So many of us try to do everything perfectly to fit in. Maybe we think that if we do everything perfectly, we will not get criticism and comments from others. But really we are more or less afraid of being criticized by others, rather than from ourselves, which eats us up from the inside with our struggle to fit in, in all situations.
It is often a feeling that grinds and grinds deeply in the silence that one is not good enough. You do not notice this feeling in your consciousness as long as you are doing everything perfectly. But the stress you are carrying, to keep everything under control and doing everything perfectly, creates stress-related conditions that sooner or later will harm your health.
It is like a ticking bomb, ready to explode at any time. Often the bomb explodes when you make a mistake on the perfect surface. Bang! All of the hidden feelings, of being not good enough, come up to the surface, after being well hidden, deep within our sub consciousness.
Suddenly everything collapses and you need outside help to find yourself again. The key is not that you must rest without finding the reasons why you must be perfect in all situations. When you have discovered the reasons and created a more positive self-image, the stress symptoms disappear like a leaf in the wind.
Here are four tips to being good enough:
1. Find out what your parents tried or are trying to do to show a perfect image
2. What you see in their perfectionism, that you have acquired through habits, you will pass on the same habits to your children and so on and so on. What habits do you want to change when you see and hear this?
3. Put yourself in situations where you will be guaranteed to get criticism from yourself or others. For example, not washing the car or ironing a shirt.
4. When you get that raw feeling that you are not good enough when you do it, just let the feeling increase and let it stay until it does not have power over you anymore. Do not be afraid of the feeling, for it is not dangerous, although often very uncomfortable.
When you meet the internal and external critics in this way, in the end you will not react with a negative feeling anymore. You feel you are good enough, regardless of what others think.
Good Luck!
Hans Thorn, Success Coach
http://www.personalcoachingonline.com
Hans Thorn, The Success Coach, has developed his coaching skills through personal development the last 20 years.
Hans has helped thousands of clients with success in areas like economy, health and relationships.
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