It's you accepting the 'you' that you want to ignore or even hide. When those who seek to be leaders don't accept all aspects of themselves, they create two fatal errors.
First, what you resist persists. If you resist your fear, it only builds. If you resist your anger, it grows larger and larger until it becomes unmanageable.
On the other hand, if you will take a good hard look at yourself; ask others for feedback, and admit who you are—all three aspects of self ( and each of us has good, bad and ugly parts ) - you can make a new plan.
For example, if you have a fear of public speaking or you sense that you are not the best communicator, join Toastmasters or a support group to help you become more proficient. In addition, you'll benefit because your communication skills will become more authentic.
We all know would-be leaders who failed due to improper communication. Had they accepted this weakness and formed a plan to overcome it, they would have succeeded.
Secondly, the traits you don't want to admit to may actually be key in moving you forward. Take the people-pleaser for example. Male or female, this person wants to be thought of as a team player, accommodator, the one who doesn't rock the boat.
Their biggest fear is to be labeled a manipulator or worse. Strong leaders know they can tap into all authentic sides of themselves in order to make things happen. They see their ability to be multifaceted as a tool rather than something to hide.
Here's what authenticity may sound like: "I am a strong leader and sometimes I am weak; I am a big-hearted giver, yet sometimes I am thrifty; I am very outgoing and I enjoy making people laugh, but I place a strong value on silent time; I am one of the most compassionate people you'll ever meet yet you don't want to be on my bad side!"
This week give yourself full permission to let all authenticity shine. It might be quite surprising to see the opportunities this would open up for you. You could craft yourself into an authentic leader. Enjoy your discoveries and have a great week!
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Master Certified Coach Ann Golden Eglé is passionate about transitioning good leaders into great leaders, the kind that followers are inspired to follow rather than have to follow out of duty. Be inspired each week with her innovative 'Success Thought for the Week' as an aid to your success. You can sign up here: http://www.GVAsuccess.com or email:
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