Assuming that you are successful and receive an invitation to attend a swingers’ party, the last thing you want after putting in all that effort is for the experience to be a disappointment. This can easily happen and when it does a lot of single guys blame the party for being a failure rather than questioning their own approach and attitude towards it.
The first thing you need to accept is that there will inevitably be many couples attending the party who are not the slightest bit interested in swinging with single males. The second thing is to understand that swingers are selective about who they swing with. Just because someone enjoys a variety of sexual partners, doesn’t mean that they will want sex with people they are not attracted to. In this respect swingers are no different to anybody else.
Keeping these two facts of life in mind, your approach to the party should otherwise be entirely positive. Unless you are very unlucky, it is most unlikely that you would have been invited if none of the other guests were interested in having some fun with single men. The secret of a successful evening is to identify who these guests are as quickly as possible and then find out which ones are likely to be attracted to you.
Start by simply approaching them and introducing yourself. Ask them general questions about how they are enjoying the party and what other parties they have attended. Are they are members of the same swinger or adult dating site or club as yourself? Don’t try to fudge things when they ask you similar questions. They are quite likely to include one about whether you have a partner and if is she at the party. Admit that you are single and be really positive about it, saying that you enjoy threesomes with swinger couples.
By this time, if you have been careful to note body language and other signals, you should have a pretty good idea as to whether there is any chemistry going on between you. If it seems unlikely, make your excuses and move on to another couple. If you feel encouraged that there is some mutual attraction, introduce an element of flirtation into the conversation. Once again, be watchful and notice the reaction. There should be some flirting being returned. If there is not, the chances are that you were mistaken in your earlier assessment and again need to move on.
Assuming all goes well, the final step is to do the bit that many people find the most difficult. A salesman would call it ‘closing the sale’ and without it all the foregoing chat is likely to have been wasted - unless you are lucky enough to have the couple do it for you! Whilst this can happen, there is every possibility that it won’t, so be bold and do the closing yourself. The great advantage of being in the sexually liberated environment of a swinger party is that you don’t need to beat around the push and you can simply say something like: "Fancy some fun now, or later on, perhaps?"
Attending a swingers' party as an unaccompanied single male can be great fun if you approach it in the right way and adopt a positive mental attitude throughout. Whilst a few swinger parties can be flops because of circumstances outside of your control, the majority are ones that offer the potential for everyone to have a good time. As a single male, attending such a party, remember that the ball is very much in your court.
