There is no one who is without fault. You can never say you have never done something wrong. We all have and once in a while we need to apologize. Sometimes we wrong our partners in a relationship so badly that even a simple apology does not count. To make it worse there are people who do not know how to apologize and instead of making things better they only make them worse. If you are wrong you are wrong. Trying to make the other person to also be at fault will not make it any better but only aggravate the situation. Maybe your problem is you do not want to apologize. Maybe you do not like it because it makes you look less than perfect yet you do not like being on the wrong. However if you do not want to apologize don't do it. Leave the blaming for tomorrow which of course never comes. If you are apologizing in a relationship, apologize the right way.

Never ever say but when you are apologizing in a relationship. The word 'but' already signifies that you are not sorry in the first place and you do not blame yourself but something else or someone else. Like i said before, if you are sorry you should be sorry and do not add anything else unless. You should never apologize in a way to solicit for pity from your mate. Do not also go demanding the person you are apologizing from to forgive you. It is the person's decision on wether they are going to forgive you or not. You should have actually thought about what your partner would have thought of it and if they would have forgiven you if they found out.

Never start an apology with 'eer I am sorry.' This sounds like an after thought and it is like you never wanted to apologize in the first place because you did not even realize you had done something wrong. Every time you think of starting an apology with eer, bite your tongue. You would rather walk around with a swollen tongue than start any apology with that word. This is because by the time you finish apologizing in a relationship you might not have your mate with you. You will even need a bigger apology than the one you needed previously.

This goes out to the men. Science has really helped you guys. Science has it that the there is a certain gene in a man that determines if a man is a player or not. The men have taken advantage of this scientific fact and have used it as an excuse on several occasions. However, this is one thing you should never think of using as an apology. Something like, because of your genetic make up, you are more likely to do so many things that will not amuse your partner does not cut it. If you want to be kicked our of your partner's life, try apologizing in a relationship using the genes excuse. If you are wrong you are wrong, apologize, let it be a sincere apology. One that comes from the heart.

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