It is never too late to turn your relation into everlasting love.
Did you ever hear that?
I LOVE YOU BUT IM NOT IN LOVE WITH YOU
Did your spouse tell you, I love you, but Im not IN LOVE with you?
What does that statement mean?
A person who says, I love you, but Im not IN LOVE with you, is making a distinction between 2 different feelings. But NEITHER of those feelings are love!
When a person says, I love you, but Im not IN LOVE with you, theyre saying that I CARE about you but Im not EXCITED about you.
CARING about someone is a good thing. Its reflective of CONCERN. But its different than love. I care about the starving children in Africa, but I dont love them.
Being EXCITED about someone is also a good thing. But its different than love. I might be excited to have a relationship with the President of the United States or a Hollywood star, but that doesnt mean I love them.
While someone who says, I love you, but Im not IN LOVE with you seems to be making a distinction between different loves; in fact, they are expressing their confusion about what love really is. And thats why theyre having marital problems and maybe even an affair (because who are they IN LOVE with?).
Love is something we articulate in the vocabulary of ACTION. Love is a verb. Its not a feeling you get from another PERSON; its an experience you receive as a result of DEEDS YOU DO for another person.
And those deeds are not a secret. In other words, love is NOT a mystery! There are specific things you can do with your spouse to solve your problems and build love in your marriage.
Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictableyou can make love.
This is exactly why I created the Marriage Fitness program. I wanted to offer people a step-by-step system to make and maintain love in their marriage. And the program works for any marriage, even if only one spouse does it.
Very often in my private coaching sessions, someone will say to me, I love my spouse, but Im not IN LOVE with my spouse.
My immediate response is to ask, Can you list for me 5 ways in the last week that youve DEMONSTRATED your love for your spouse?
I usually hear noise on the other end of the phone; grunts, partial statements, and gasps for breath, but none of what I hear ever passes for an answer to my question.
I love you, but Im not IN LOVE with you is a cop out. It basically means that I have no clue how to make a relationship last LONG-TERM so Im exiting to get high from another short-term romance. But whoever theyre IN LOVE with now will also eventually hear, I love you, but Im not IN LOVE with you.
Of course, this is all fine and good, but its really your spouse who needs to hear this, right?
Do NOT print this email out and give it to them. And do NOT tell them what I said.
Getting your spouse from I love you, but Im not IN LOVE with you to Okay, lets give this another chance is a tricky task. If this is your situation, its crucial you handle it strategically. One false step and your marriage could be over. If you take the right steps, you can draw your spouse back in and begin to restore your marriage TOGETHER. How do you do that?
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