I’ve spent the last several years of my life attempting to get people to like Brian Zimmerman. It’s also known as a people pleaser. I would go around telling everybody yes and was always afraid of what others may think of me if I actually told them no. Even worse I would attempt to seek approval from everybody.
What I’ve discovered is this simply does not work if your looking to succeed in life. Carnegie also had mentioned at one time that enemies are not the ones to look out for, but the friends that attempt to flatter you that are the ones you should look out for.
In reality, people want to talk about themselves more than they want to hear you talk about you. Once you understand this you’ll be able to navigate through the relationship building, which will lead to more business if you’re in business, a better relationship with your significant other, and more friends in life.
I’d challenge you to not talk about yourself next time you meet someone but to ask them questions about themselves and be really interested in other people and what’s going on in their lives.
Here’s a list of things you can ask people to not only start a conversation but to fuel the conversation.
1. Name – Yep you ask their name, and you give them your full name.
2. Family – Ask if they have one or ask questions about their family.
3. Kids – You can ask if they have kids and if their kids play sports.
4. Sports – Learn to see who their favorite sports teams are.
5. Travel – Ask if they’ve been anywhere cool lately.
These are just some questions to ignite conversations. Once you’ve ignited the conversation you’ll be able to dig further into these topics once you YOURSELF find something to go off.
For example, I love doing crossfit, which is a fitness routine. If I was talking with someone and I found out they do crossfit, I’d naturally get excited and I could ask further questions about their experience with crossfit.
Warning: Something to be cautious of is to be careful to not “one up” a person if you’ve found a similar interest. So you don’t want to find out someone went to Mexico on vacation, and you come back and say, “Oh yea I went to New Zealand yesterday to eat dinner and I flew right back home.”
Remember it’s about other people, so learn and enjoy. GET PEOPLE TALKING ABOUT THEMSELVES ; )
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